There are men in a relationship with a woman who has suffered from sexual violence, and in some situations, doubts arise from … He restored that this couple, who mistook the couple who could have disappeared from their lives or still represented harassment on this topic. “There is a crisis that does not apparently leave anywhere anywhere, the difficulties in having sex, anxiety, shocks or post -trauma. Take it as something they do,” says Psychologist Alfredo and Eblat, who is responsible for the clinical services of the Marie Langer Center, which begins through its formation.
Men’s reactions respond to “classic masculinity tools. I escaped or I will search for this uncle and leave my face”, reflects Miguel Lzaro, director of the Experimental Male Society, unlike alpha but also to issue a computer computer. “Negative, to leave, and another active, to search for the previous one. But if you want this person, even if it is very difficult to get this relationship with it, you need tools to deal with it. Wallets, who hopes he can describe the types of cases“ experience ”:“ The deficit may also appear, because she does not know what to do. ”“ A person needs elements to question the male and be able to take care of in different ways; The other person. Men have a fantasy, and it is very difficult for us to express the insecurity and our fears, because we consider it a sign of weakness.
The idea, which is still unpublished, arose, when Zaro received a person’s message that he told his case. “He told me that his partner suffered from sexual violence and tried to help her, but he was very difficult, he did not know how to do this and needed a place to exchange the difficulty of the operation,” he told Zaro. “Ask for help and we saw that these men can be provided so that they are better partners for their partners, in the way of attending sexual activity and time for care. Men are very taught to receive care, not much to give them. Men are not trained in sympathy. We are trained to give solutions. If you tell me a problem, I am probably legs to tell you what you have to do, but perhaps the only thing they need is to listen, and not to give a solution. ”
Group dynamics
The workshop, or the reflection space is not for the evaluation men. It depends on “societal interference” for “turbulent work in daily life”, among them aggressive muscles, and points such as female and male construction and patterns of violence will be touched, and the psychological consequences of the person who suffered from them. “Everyone will talk about their own experience and work on what we share,” says Wallat. “It is not a psychological intervention, because it is not diseases. It is more open. ”
In the sessions of the six group, with the maximum capacity of 20 people, it is expected to explore for two hours for each session “How to live it, what generates sexual impotence, and what causes pain”, although the usual thing is that “the men’s group interferes in the word” in the first minutes. “Although every person has their own experience with women who may have suffered from childhood sexual assault or continuous abuse with one of the previous parts, which will cross all of these men is the difficulty in talking about it,” says Lzaro. “With support, accompaniment, listening and love, you can prove that it can be another man, and have a more kind and more accurate relationship.”
“The third goal is to generate personal and social importance,” Waisblat adds. “With others, I listen, listen to me, change a dynamic relationship, and understand that my facts or behaviors are related to social construction and scenario. Not you. So I can go out remotely, I can change things in my daily life with my partner. Perhaps this group decided to form an association at a later time, as happened. ” The challenge only begins to break another type of violence.
